Date: 2003-04-18 20:21
Subject: Whats up with…
Security: Public
Mood: thoughtful

All the best women ending up with guys that just oppress them, control them, and in general mistreat them? What is it that makes these guys feel they need to take a perfect wild rose, cursh it, tear off petals, dethorn it, and kill it? Why can’t they see the treasure they hold and curl their hands protectively around it instead of clutching it in a deathgrip and destoying it? Why do the nicest, sweetest, kindest women end up with guys like that who’ll just break their spirit.

Maybe I should become like that, controlling. Maybe that’ll get me a good woman. In my next relationship, whenever that is, i think ill try that.

I’ll DEMAND that she be her own person, i’ll ORDER her to NOT live her life for me, to NOT cater to my every whim, to be the woman SHE WANTS to be. I’ll give her no choice but to keep her spirit, to feed the fires that rage inside her, Ill allow her to sacrifice for me ONLY IF SHE WANTS TO!!

I know, that’s not exactly controlling. I can’t be controlling, its not in me to be like that. I can’t do that to someone, its not right to treat someone like property like that.

A good woman is a beautiful flower that should be protected, nurtured, cared for. A rare gem that needs to be polished, placed in a setting that matches its beauty, but never cut bc her natural beauty far outshines anything you could do to change it.

To any guys reading this, if you find a good woman, one who’ll support you in ur endeavors, laugh with you when your happy, comfort you when ur sad, help heal your past wounds and dry ur tears when someone inflicts a new one, stand by ur side with pride when ur leading the charge, and pick you up when ur knocked down, treat her right. Do for her all that she does for you and more. Be her knight in shining armor when shes in distress, her strength when she feels weak, her diary when she needs to unburden her soul, her pillow when she needs to hold something and cry, her Romeo so she never forgets how beautiful she is and how much she deserves the happiness shes found in you.

Remember the little things, a flower for no reason other than it made you think of her, a little note stuck in her coat pocket that says “I Love You,” sweeping her into ur arms and kissing her just because shes there, sitting on the couch together and just being there, the gentle touch on her arm that says “I’m here for you,” and watching sunsets together.

Never forget that that good woman has chosen to share her life with you, because the moment you forget that, you’ll start taking her for granted and risk not only losing her, but hurting her in ways that may never be able to be healed. If you take her for granted and crush her, just like a rose thats been broken, she may never have the same shine, the same beauty, the same spirit inside that you first fell in love with and that made her the good woman you once held.

Marshall J. Fletcher
4/18/2003